I think as I have gotten older, I have softened.
I have softened with the responsibilities that I place on myself, on the expectations of others, the realisation of how much I actually have control over, and the fact that taking care of myself is a priority.
So I am not sure if it has something to do with becoming ‘middle-aged’ (hear my bones groan) and surviving through some important life lessons or if it has something to do with living life more simply, but whatever the reason, I have softened and guess what … I like it! 😀 (yes, I am even searching for the ultimate comfortable pair of shoes … that little slice of heaven!)
Anyway, like all people, there are days when we all strive to do so many things. There are jobs to be done, housework to be completed, bills are paid, food shopping is done, spending time with loved ones, caring for children, meeting responsibilities at work, helping out friends and the list goes on…
…but it can be exhausting, overwhelming and just plain busy.
Of course, it is normal to want to succeed, keep up and have each and every day ‘just perfect’.
The perfect day, week, year or even a lifetime…. when everyone is happy, you have achieved your hopes and dreams and everything in all areas of your life is just rolling along….perfectly!
There are times when it goes right… Oh! it is such a great feeling!
Sometimes, actually often, life can throw a curveball and well, life just isn’t that perfect…. not even close.
Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful!
It can range from one small thing in a day that can turn everything upside down, to a major health crisis, to not having a job or even just disagreeing with a loved one.
Often, we all need a little reminder that people, jobs, family and experiences don’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.
Sometimes it is those times when things go wrong that you find out who your true friends are. Or when you think you just can’t go on, but somehow you find that little bit of energy that can propel you forward.
Those little imperfections are what makes life great, interesting and definitely ‘not boring’!
Little imperfections are what makes someone unique, a job interesting, create experiences so worth remembering and fantastic stories to share.
Such a simple saying but often hard to feel, as life is busy in such a demanding world.
Life is meant to feel good!
We, us little human beings, are meant to experience a range of emotions and that can’t happen if everything is the same, or perfect.
How boring life would be if we always had the same things going on in our lives. The same emotions, the same people, the same responsibilities… we would miss out on so much!
That feeling after a disagreement with a loved one when you make up 😉 or the feeling of being frustrated with something you’re working on and the satisfaction when it all comes together. That feeling when you work hard for one day and feel confident that everything is ready for the next day.
Just like the seasons changing from winter to spring, to summer and autumn, the one constant in life is …. change!
Things change, people change, experiences and situations change and they are ever-evolving… but just not perfect.
Just simply changing our headset or the way we perceive things, people or events can truly change the way you feel about yourself, others, situations and life.
Recognising that there will be times when life goes ‘wonky’, or it is hard or everything isn’t just as it should be.
Just knowing that things will change and that these times are meant to give us the opportunity to feel…to be human!
Experiencing a range of emotions is what makes life interesting… just not perfect!
So for me, it is about softening. Softening expectations, living intentionally, being mindful, doing my best, experiencing everything life has … the ups, the downs and all the changes, the emotions and mixed in with all of that, the joy – however small it is.
Finding the smallest joy often makes the biggest difference!
So the next time you are thinking that life just isn’t perfect and never will be… don’t strive for perfection…. aim for wonderful! 😀
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